Just yesterday I sent all of you faithful subscribers and readers on a bit of a wild goose chase. Granted you were able to read
but I’d asked you to re-subscribe at my new web location and subscriptions weren’t working. Thank you Dawn and Sally for telling me. But the problem is now fixed (thank you Michelle) and I hope that you’ll try again to subscribe. Cherry
I’m now blogging on WordPress.org vs. WordPress.com. It provides me with some features I couldn’t get here. And I could take my archived blogs with me! But I couldn’t take my subscribers along.
Hope you’ll come on over and read my latest post:
and sign up as a subscriber. I’d love to continue our relationship. Cherry
1. Exclamation points!!
2. Mugs, traveling or otherwise as giveaways. Conferences, companies: Please save your $ and save the earth. You’re only advertising on the Goodwill shelf anyway.
3. SEO companies contacting spamming me on my website to tell me how they could help me – especially since they haven’t read my site. Be smart enough to comment about the site and what I do. That wouldn’t be as obnoxious and would cause me to pause and read about you vs. immediate deletion.
4. People answering their cell phones when they’re having lunch or a biz meeting with me. Folks – next time we can just talk on the phone instead of getting together to meet since the phone seems to be your preferred mode of communication. Or if you’d feel more comfortable we can still meet and I’ll be like the delightfully quirky Fitch on Detroit 1-8-7 and call you from across the table to tell you things about how I feel.
If my ire isn’t enough to change your behavior consider this extremely powerful example of why the constant tuned-to-technology behavior of “not stopping to enjoy the present moment behavior” needs to stop. Thanks to @Pamslim for tweeting this.
5. People who mumble. This is beyond Jerry Seinfeld’s low-talkers, these people aren’t enunciating their words. What’s that about? Do they not want to be heard? Are they afraid of their own opinions? Do they have a form of lock-jaw?
Thanks for listening. What pet peeves or things you’re sick of would you like to add?
It’s true. I’ve grown up. I accepted it fully at Vision 2020:An American Conversation about Women and Leadership on October 21-22, 2010.
Actually it was quite fitting that the recognition of my true coming of age would be in the powerful embrace of The National Constitution Center
in Philadelphia where all around me was the enthralling evidence of a birth of a nation.
It was also invigorating that the acceptance of my growth coursed through my body, mind and spirit while in the presence of extraordinary women delegates from 50 states and the District of Columbia who had come together to help shape the future of women’s leadership in the next decade. (At the end of the Conversation, the National Delegates return to their home states to mobilize resources to implement elements of the Vision 2020 Action Agenda.)
So What Happened?
I listened and talked with women who had founded a symphony, The White House Project and many successful businesses and non-profit agencies; also professors, college Presidents, Pulitzer Prize Winner, lawyers, doctors and yes, Indian – Native American – Chief and …
I was impressed but I never diminished myself.
I was awe-struck but I never struck my accomplishments down.
I was inspired without saying “I could never do that.”
There in the halls of history, I made history. I did not compare myself and find myself short. In fact, I didn’t compare myself at all. I recognized the unique abilities and contributions of each of those women, just as I recognized my own unique abilities and contributions.
No more comparison. No more stinkin’ thinkin’. “I ain’t gonna be a face in the crowd, you’re gonna hear my voice when I shout it out loud. It’s my life. It’s now or never. I ain’t gonna live forever. I just wanna live while I’m alive.”
Click below and join the sing-along with Bon Jovi and me. It’s my [your] life!
Book with thought-provoking words and paintings by Marylou and Alan Falstreau.
It is the stories that we tell ourselves – the good, the bad, and the ugly - that shape how we see ourselves. Through awareness of our thinking – our assumptions, our all-or-nothing thoughts, our habituated patterns, our acceptance of media myths – we can change it. I changed mine to see:
The Beauty Of Aging
My wrinkles tell the story
of a life of experiences
I am grateful for every one
for they’ve brought me to today.
The following can be sung to the tune of the Kingston Trio‘s MTA.
Let me tell you the story
Of a woman named Cherry
On a tragic and fateful day
She put money in her pocket,
Kissed her son and family
Went to ride on DC’s sub-way
Cherry gave her metro card
At the Ballston Square Station
And she headed for G. W. U.
When she got there the conductor told her,
“One more nickel.”
Cherry could not get off that train.
If you’re familiar with the song then you know that Cherry [Charlie] never returned, destined, in his case, to ride the streets of Boston for the rest of his life. I’m willing to blame that song for the fear that I have of taking a subway after a long hiatus (there are no subways where I live).
But no amount of subway apprehension was going to keep me from attending and participating in the pilot SisU Bootcamp: Your New Mission in the Sisterhood of Success at the George Washington University School of Business, Center for Entrepreneurial Excellence. Sisterhood University™ is the testing ground for research gathered by the Hot Mommas® Project, which is the world’s largest collection of teachable role models and mentors (aka case studies) for women and girls particularly in the area of leadership.
Riding the Orange Line and attending SisU bootcamp were well-worth it. I connected with amazing women. I met face-to-face with Kathy Korman Frey, with whom I’ve tweeted @ChiefHotMomma and participated in a coaching call with but never met. I learned about the power of a structured forum (click on the link for an explanation written by another participant, Cindi Thomas), as well as the magic of five for increased success in our work:
“We all need a group of 5 supporters in our professional life if we are going to reach our potential. Period.” Kathy Korman Frey, professor and researcher
So, as part of my boot camp assignment, I’ve identified 5 supporters/mentors to work with that can help me in the 5 areas I’ve identified where I need help in order to be more successful. SisU will provide a template for me to follow when working with my mentors. I’m excited, looking forward to the process, and will let you know my results.
Upon leaving the session after gaining ideas, contacts and hope I can tell you that my preliminary results showed am improved outlook by me – I was smiling broadly and looking forward to getting on the subway…so much easier than driving in DC traffic.