Are Bro’ Hugs A Sign Of Weakness?|Politics, Masculinity and Femininity
This hug caused Lawrence Kudlow, columnist, economist and CNBC TV commentator to fret because he saw it as a sign of weakness.
Kudlow explained his feelings (should I use the word feelings or does it make Kudlow seem weak?) by saying: “Remember, this is on global television. And it has to do with the very top of the United States government. Our friends and enemies were all watching. I think the hug lacked dignity. It did not send a message of American power and forcefulness. So I fret about the reaction around the world to this kind of fraternity-like emotionalism in full public view.”
I think it’s time for Kudlow to look through some old home movies.
President Bush and Israeli Prime Minister Olmert
But they aren’t hugging as closely as Emanuel and Obama so maybe this doesn’t meet the threshold of Kudlow’s line for weakness.
Presidents Bush and Obama
I wonder if Kudlow thinks that it was hugs like this by Bush earlier in his Presidency that caused 9/11. Perhaps Bin Laden saw the President hugging another man and thought “OMA, the sign I’ve been looking for. America’s weak – send out the suicide bombers.”
President Reagan and Mexican President
Kudlow said Reagan, in the same situation would have done a dignified, stand-up, serious handshake – maybe, but maybe not. Looks like he’s enjoying the big hug he’s about to get into with the Mexican President.
Here’s former British Prime Minister Tony Blair hugging Kung Fu star Jet Li. Notice someone’s arm in the background. Looks to me like that person’s coming in to make it a group hug. <gasp>
Following Kudlow’s reasoning, it was probably weak, undignified acts like this that started the ball rolling for the end of the British Empire.
It’s a sad commentary when someone – anyone – sees hugging as a sign of weakness. I want both men and women to be able to hug, tear up, and display feelings without it being seen as a sign of weakness. Holding feelings in is like holding a beach ball under the water and once released (or it/they just can’t be held down anymore) it shoots up uncontrollably, spraying water everywhere.
Would Kudlow have thought that it showed America’s power if Obama had punched Emanuel for leaving his position? A punch appears more powerful than a hug or a handshake.
What do you think? More importantly how are you raising your sons and daughters? Are displays of hugging a sign of weakness?